Connecting the Dots. Sinful Sunday #383


“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.” Steve Jobs

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If I had a photograph. Food for Thought Friday #58


If you take risqué photographs, what is it that you enjoy most? The creativity, the composition, the feedback you get from those who see them?

I really started taking intimate photos of myself at the start of our D/s four or so years ago. I had developed a newly found appreciation for how my body looked after birthing two children who were both still under five at that point, and rediscovering our strong sexual connection, further enhanced by the openness our D/s encouraged and I wanted to express this visually for myself and for Cuiplash. Some images are surprises and gifts for him, some are requests from him, some feature us both, like a visual diary I guess. The photos then were initially primarily for Cuiplash, and mostly still are, although I have shared a fair number on my Fetlife profile since, in my blog and in participating in a number of wonderful memes since starting my blog.

As a creative educator, I have always greatly enjoyed the creative and design process involved in planning an image, considering composition, viewpoint, mood and atmosphere and will also make use of a range of editing tools including Photoshop and photographic editing apps to alter or enhance contrast, tone and colour.

I’ll admit to really appreciating both positive and constructive feedback on images I have created as I feel proud of how I look in the image, plus my ability to produce images that others enjoy, whether in an erotic or creative sense.

If you participate in any of the memes, what made you decide to take part? How did you feel the first time you linked a post for others to see?

I have only really just started participating in memes, and have been humbled, surprised and delighted to have been selected in round ups for Sinful Sunday, Masturbation Monday and Wicked Wednesday so far as I respect the opinions and wealth of creativity, experience and encouragement that exists within each. I’m grateful that there are such a number of exciting and inspiring memes to be part of and I really enjoy looking at the work of others. I decided to take part as I had seen them on other blogs and always thought they looked fun, as well as learning about the styles and creativity of others in the blogging community.

The first time I posted an erotic image of myself I used Fetlife and I felt a rush of excitement and adrenaline plus a healthy shot of anxiety, questioning why I was doing it. Positive feedback did spur me on to add more, as I produced more photo shoots for Cuiplash. When he also posted images of me on his profile I knew he was keen to show off what was his and that he was proud of me. I have become a lot more relaxed about it since, and although still have insecurities about parts of my body, I think I’m good at views and angles that flatter what I have. I have considered a series of images that show the folds and curves I’m unsure of and that is a current project for my ‘to create’ list.

How comfortable are you sharing semi-nude/nude/sexually explicit photos of yourself, either online or via a “sext”?

I recognised a while ago that I definetly possess an exhibitionist streak and, as long as I am pleased with how the image looks, I enjoy posting images of myself online, including semi nude, nude and sexually explicit, although I have a number of such images I have not posted very many that are particularly explicit and it will be interesting to see where that takes Cuiplash and I. I would like to take more images that feature both of us and have a number of ideas for future exploration.

Privately, however, I will be entirely free in sending images to Cuiplash, and he to me. We use a locked image app and store all photographs we have taken there, for our eyes only!