50 posts…


It took me more time than anyone is aware of to decide to actually start this blog of mine, for many reasons I won’t go into here.

I’m not even sure what it was exactly that made me flip the switch from ruminating over it to actually setting it up and just doing it, probably reaching my limit over just ruminating over it all to be honest, and thinking of all the things I’d like to reflect on, explore, explain, learn and share. Eagerness and excitement to get it all out my head and into words. To become part of something, to maybe even help someone, somewhere.

I’ve read blogs for a really long time, on many different topics to do with my career, parenting, mental health, wellbeing, D/s, sex and kink and psychology to name a few. I’ve never been brave enough to set up a profile to comment or contribute and I know this is rooted in confidence and not feeling ‘part of it all’.

In the grand scheme of here I’m a baby blogger by anyone’s standards. Still learning to walk before I can run, finding my feet and my voice. 50 little posts, a bunch of followers I’m grateful for, some lovely strangers who I hope become friends who have taken the time to like and comment on my efforts. Each one I appreciate more than you know, as I figure this out.

I’ve taken an unexpected dip in confidence very recently. Doubting why I’m here and what I’m doing, seeing things still out of reach, and suddenly unsure of how this little corner of me ‘is’. Maybe I just need to relax and enjoy it, write like no-one is reading and what will be will be. Have no expectations of myself or anyone else.

I feel this corner of me is a bit of a mish mash; some art, some poetry, some pics, some fiction, some deeply personal struggles, some fun stuff, some real stuff, my relationship, my thoughts, my insecurities, my reflections. Like many little splinters it’s all me, although I fear it lacks focus.

So, readers and more experienced writers than I, any feedback on any of this would be greatly appreciated.

Baby steps…

thank you, Kis x



22 thoughts on “50 posts…

  1. alphaandkat August 3, 2018 / 9:14 am

    The two things I would encourage is that you make sure the blog always fulfills your need to do it, and be sincere. Don’t start thinking you have to write for your readers. If you write for you the readership you attract will be those that are more compatible to hearing about what you’re writing. And too many people try to portray themselves as something they’re not…and it comes across as phony or forced. Kat and I have given a lot of blogs a chance and just had to unfollow many because of the lack of sincerity.

    By the way, we enjoy your blog and think you’re doing a great job. — AJT

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  2. Indigo August 3, 2018 / 10:08 am

    Hey Kis we are reading, it does take time. But you’ve got useful things to share and express. I never thought I’d still be blogging but have recently hit the 12 month mark, and there is always something to discuss, fantasise about or share, even though I’ve eased up quite a bit now due to external factors. 50 is a great milestone!
    Indie xx

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    • kisungura August 3, 2018 / 10:14 am

      Thank you Indie, and congrats on the 12 month milestone! I know once work starts up again my time will again be limited, but I think I’ve given it a good push to start off with, hope it stays afloat xx

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  3. darkanddominant August 3, 2018 / 10:25 am

    The best advice I can give you is to just be yourself and try your hardest to not over think it. Post what stirs your soul and ignites your passion and people will fall in love with your words.

    Doubt is the worst. I get it from time to time – what if you run in circles? When do I start repeating myself? What if I’m just TOO weird? – but it might help writing a little mantra down to remember what made you jump on to the blogging world in the first place. Maybe, in those quiet times, repeating it will help reinforce the idea. It helps with me.

    Happy 50th! Here’s to another 50! I’m glad we found each other, or at least, you found me.

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    • kisungura August 3, 2018 / 11:00 am

      Good advice, thank you, I like the idea of a mantra to remind me why I did/am doing it for the doubty spikes. I am too 😊


  4. nijntje August 3, 2018 / 1:16 pm

    I enjoy your blog very much and the pictures are such a wonderful addition! I just touched on a similar topic but I say just keep going, you are doing just as you should. 🙂 And yay 50!!

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  5. missy August 3, 2018 / 5:34 pm

    I can only echo what I have said already, to be yourself and write what you want to write. Try to do what you enjoy and don’t let it become one of those things that you have to do. I have not been blogging for nearly as long as some on here but have still found that my relationship with blogging comes and goes a bit as with everything. Sometimes there is so much to say and other times, the words don’t come. What I have found is that the people who genuinely like what you write will be there regardless. They will offer support when needed and cheer you on when it is time to celebrate. It took me some time to feel like I fitted and had made blogging friends but it did happen for me and I am sure it will for you. Those sparks and connections happen naturally and I don’t think they can be forced.

    I think also that this is a place where lots of us want to be accepted for who we really are. If you don’t like it then you won’t read it so there is really no pressure to do something or be something. I have found it to be a place of safety rather than to be somewhere with rules that I have to adhere to. Writing for commercial reasons is different I am sure but if you are blogging as a hobby or interest then output isn’t really relevant. I think that most of us are writing for ourselves rather than for others.

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  6. Marie Rebelle August 3, 2018 / 5:53 pm

    I am so happy you decided to start blogging and that I have discovered your blog. Please keep on writing and sharing, and a small piece of advise (something you have also mentioned in your blog): first thing, always write for yourself!

    Rebel xox

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    • kisungura August 3, 2018 / 8:50 pm

      Thanks so much Marie, advice I’ll stick to ☺️


  7. Brigit Delaney August 5, 2018 / 3:12 pm

    I started blogging 12 years ago…began my first erotic blog in 2008 (The Lustful Literate), and transferred to my new one just recently because I wanted it to be more focused. I think it’s a struggle many of us have. We have some things to say but we aren’t quite sure how to package them and deliver them.

    I would say…the writing is more important than the package or delivery method. It is cathartic, healing, and helpful to others. Plus, it allows you to connect.

    The package will come together over time. A logo maybe. And organization method. That sort of thing. But as long as you are writing, all is good.

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    • kisungura August 5, 2018 / 4:46 pm

      Wow, that’s fantastic Brigit, what a wealth of experience! I really appreciate your advice and will definitely take it on board. Thank you for commenting 😊


  8. AC @ The Cracked Lens August 6, 2018 / 7:18 pm

    Hmmm… what you see as a “lack of focus” is what brings me back to your blog. It is a mish mash of things, and that is ok. Whether it be poetry, photos, your thoughts…whatever. It is what you are thinking of at the moment. So, don’t worry over focus. Just enjoy it and have fun.

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    • kisungura August 7, 2018 / 12:37 am

      Thank you, I’m definitely aiming for that, and that mish mash is kind of just me 😊


  9. ThePinkSeam August 11, 2018 / 1:48 pm

    I enjoy your blog and can relate from the perspective of being a new blogger and attempting to decide what type of message and content I want to share.

    I think doubt is a natural part of the process of finding one’s authentic voice. You’re definitely on the right track. Embrace your feelings, but move through it anyway! There are many who are interested in reading about your journey.

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    • kisungura August 11, 2018 / 3:03 pm

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate that. I’m glad you can relate too, thank you for your encouraging words xx

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